01 June, 2010

Friendship

My brother Mayur is celebrating the 2nd anniversary of his blog. I wrote a guest post on his blog, thought of sharing it here too,

There are some people who don’t forget to talk to you, who are always behind you, encouraging you, stand by you in difficult times. I think they are your true friends, than someone who gives you study notes, pay for hotel bills, etc. I am very fortunate to have such good friends. And there comes the vacation time, when you miss your lovely friends who are away in their village enjoying, but you feel good when you talk to them on phone. Your ears soothe when you hear their voice, talk good things with then, and enjoy the conversation. And you smile when you hang up.

Only those are your true friends who stand by you. It doesn’t matter to have a friend as a girl or a boy, a friend is a friend, who always trusts you. Friendship is not determined by the money a person spends on you, not by the nature of the person, not by the attention he or she gives at you. It is determined by how much does he or she cares for you, stands by you when you are in pain, enquires about your well being. True friends always get happy when something good happens with you, unlike those people who are jealous of you.

Jealousy and friendship are poles apart, a true friend will never get jealous of you. If you ask a classmate for notes and he/she doesn’t want to give even if he has them, then he is jealous of you. Such people can never be your true friends. Rather if you ask a true friend for notes and study material, he will arrange it for you, even if he himself does not have any notes. Not only notes but your true friends stand by you in each and every situation, be it cheating in exam or a tussle with teacher.

We in turn forget our responsibility as a friend. We ask for everything but fail to give anything. Remember, friendship is a give and take relationship, if you only care to take everything and don’t give anything, then the relationship deteriorates. Our friends also face problems like us, we should care for them and help them. If your friend is trying to arrange study notes for you and the friends circle, you should not just sit and wait for the notes to arrive, you should actively search for arranging notes. Friendship is a collective effort. Fights and misunderstandings are bound to happen in friendship, look for ways to resolve them, and be friends forever.

I wish all my friends good luck and a prosperous life (both online and real ones).

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