27 July, 2011

The positive side

credits: Wikipedia
Every thing in the world has a positive side. Didn't get it? Okay, electric current flows from positive to negative terminal, or the magnet has a north pole which can be considered as positive. Even our body has positive and a negative side, that is, the right and the left side.

So, enough of this boring text, let's start off. A few hours ago a friend of mine posted her status as "How to control your anger?" Controlling anger can be one of the most difficult tasks. Everyone has faced situations where they get angry, but some can control the situation and some cannot. Many people get away from the scene to prevent 'disasters'. Many try to overpower the opposite person to win the argument, and many get aggressive and hit people.

I am no psychologist but there is one think that surely works and I have experienced it. Thinking positive about the opposite person. By positive thinking I mean thinking good about someone. For example, if you are fighting with your girlfriend and the argument is leading nowhere, then think good about her, like, think that how beautiful she is or she has so many good qualities (okay, I do that!). Girlfriend examples are boring, take another example of a petty quarrel with your sibling. Think about the days you used to play together, had a lot of fun, and did so many exciting things. There are a lot of thoughts that you can bring into your minds. Bring in good thoughts not the bad ones.

But the biggest problem is, such thoughts never come into your mind in an ongoing quarrel. YOU will have to bring in those thoughts deliberately. For that you must have an attitude of forgiving people, or the "its okay chalta hai" attitude, atleast in such cases. Let go off the person, remember that even you yourself is not a perfect person. Also stop expecting from loved ones. A lot of differences occur when your expectations are not met. Apply some Gandhigiri here.

You know I am an angry bird. But not to that extent when a person starts yelling, hitting, abusing, et cetera et cetera. And yes, this technique works best for me, at least. Have a nice fighting next time :)

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